5 Healthy Characteristics of Anger

Accepting Anger

In a society where opposition paralyzes our government, mass killings continue to increase and TV talk show hosts spew sarcasm and obscenities across the airwaves, our culture readily labels anger as undesirable, bad and even destructive. Not true.

Anger on its own merits is a wonderful, healthy gift!

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Expectations and Holiday Stress

Stressed Woman

As we are caught up in the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, I want to share part of the conversation from our last monthly Making Peace with Anger gathering where the topic was “Handling Holiday Stress”.

When we asked the participants to describe what holiday stress looks like for them, some of the words they used were: loneliness, confusion, being Jewish in a Christian society, expenses, juggling family relationships, time management and anxiety.

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Signs Of An Anger Problem

Anger Masks

You may have an anger problem if:

You were disrespected as a child.
You show disrespect for others or yourself.
You act on feelings without thinking.
You blame others for how you feel.
You do not know how to tell somebody when you are hurt.
You use addictive behaviors (alcohol, drugs, sex, work, etc.) to avoid feeling.

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Defining Anger

Cat-eyes

Anger is a feeling that tells you that you are hurt and don’t want to be hurt. It is about what you don’t want. When you learn not to react to anger and look at it as a mirror, it identifies what you do want.The “gift of anger” is to be able to go after what you want instead of fighting with what you don’t want.

An anger problem is any anger-related behavior (verbal, physical, or emotional) that is hurtful to you or someone else.

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